Your mother saying that \"you can do it again and they will act surprised\" is nothing short of a slap in the face - I would be INCREDIBLY insulted in your shoes. The magic of the moment has already been stolen from you, what she suggests would just rub salt in the wound and make it all the more bittersweet.
NTA. Your family made the wrong assumptions about your (what I assume to be your first) pregnancy and just blatantly ignored you, berate and insult you entirely until your SIL had to correct them only after the damage was done. And now they want a do over Absolutely not! Don't let them guilt trip you and limit contact with your family until you're ready to talk on your terms. That magic was already robbed from you the first time and won't ever be the same again.
I'm childfree, but I still like being around kids. You know I do to experience \"the magic\" or whatever the fuck I try to be a really great aunt to all of my friend's kids, and I'll do the same for my siblings' if they ever have some.
Wow, NTA. Your family are a bunch of mild jerks, but your SIL really takes the cake. I wouldn't speak to her again, honestly. What an awful prank to play. And you are not obligated to a fake \"do-over\" just so they can pretend to get it right.
NTA, you need to clearly let them know that there is no re-doing the moment as it was stolen by SIL. She was the selfish one, not you. There is no way you could have corrected them without them saying you were just jealous or worse. So if they want to make it to you, they need to come up with another solution than a do-over. Although you understand is not their fault, but SILs, the magic of the announcement was lost and cannot be recreated at will. 153554b96e